Have you ever heard that familiar line of “I’m not who I used to be?” This is one of those statements that can bring a lot of conversation. Questions that may stem from this would be things such as what is the reason? Who is responsible? Why did you need to change? Is something wrong with the person you used to be? The questions are unlimited. Sometimes you have to make adjustments in your life that result in change of “identity.” It doesn’t necessarily mean your physical identity, but instead may also be your mental identity. Who you once were in your personal or professional life, May now be much different.

Let’s talk about professional changes first. Are you happy with your career? Are you happy with your place of employment or more specifically, the people? Do you have bottled up emotions while at work? Well if these things are interfering with your performance or more importantly, your mental state, it’s time for a change. I can’t necessarily state what that change would be because it differs depending on the situation. It may be you are being overworked, yet overlooked for promotions. It may be that you see things within the business or organization that are disturbing and unfair. Whatever it is, deal with it with professionalism and class. Make the necessary adjustments that focus on you, because a lot of times you cannot control the actions of others.

Changing who you are in your personal life can take on an entire new look. Personal life changes can me many topics or situations. Let’s talk about relationships. I’m no relationship expert, but I do have “common sense!” People will prey on you if you allow them too. They will have you in a dark place if you allow them to. They will have you in a stagnant situation if you allow them to. We have to remember that it’s too much pressure to expect one person to be the lead in a relationship. You can not be responsible for your mental state and theirs too. It becomes draining. It becomes overwhelmingly draining when you are looked to as the person to always be the problem solver. I am sure many of you can agree that you have been in this position. You don’t have to stay in that position. Change is sometimes necessary and you can’t always be the person you used to be. I recently posted on my social media a statement that basically said I’m not who I used to be but there are reasons why.

Peoples’ true colors will one day show. I can remember days having to interact with people knowing they had talked bad about me or even lied, yet I still remained calm and displayed professionalism. Today, I’m not who I used to be because now I only complete the necessary tasks with those type people and avoid unnecessary conversation. It’s better that way sometimes. You have to keep your distance sometimes. I can remember days of going the extra mile for people who only needed me to reap their own benefits. I’m not that person anymore either. I do not mind helping other people, but I shall not be a door mat.

I am not who I used to be reminds me of the biblical verse about when I was a child……. A translated version of the verse is “When I was a child, my speech, feelings, and thinking were all those of a child; now that I am an adult, I have no more use for childish ways.” Sometimes even as adults we have to change our adult ways because of the changes we’ve made in our life. Don’t be afraid to not be the person you used to be. Instead be the best person you can be.

Bonus Tidbit: I recently purchased a 100-Day goal journal because there are so many goals I have and I wanted to effectively take one of my most important goals and do what it takes to put it into action. You won’t go wrong with this purchase. The link to the journal is below.

100 Day Journal